In college, the most important thing to do is to maintain the best grades you possibly can. Whether this benchmark is a 2.5 GPA or a 4.0 GPA it doesn’t matter. Maintaining good grades increases the chance of further schooling after your undergraduate years as well as increased interest by an employer. The most important thing is that getting these grades is also the only way you will earn your diploma. As you can see maintaining a high academic mindset and standing is vital to the formal goals of college. The informal goals of college, however, are an unspoken world of mystery and trial and error. In academics, you can reach out to tutors and advisors to seek aid in excelling in an area of study. But, maintaining a social life is completely up to you.
Having an active and healthy social life not only relieves stress but, also just makes college a lot more fun. Having fun in college may not be the most important thing but, as you begin to read more blog posts you will see that I am a huge advocate for trying out all experiences and living life to the fullest. In essence, you have only one opportunity to be a college student. When you are 40 years old and have a full-time job with kids you will look back on these days and not be disappointed with what you did but, with what you didn’t do. In the rest of this post, I will be sharing how I maintain excellent grades while also never missing opportunities of hanging out with friends on the weekends.
The first and most important thing about being able to maintain good grades and social life in college is being able to stay organized. Being organized in this aspect is not having all of your notes in the same format and font. Instead, it is being able to organize when you can do work. Throughout the week you will have classes, meetings, workouts, practices, club events, and whatever else you take part in. Being able to organize times that are designated to when you can do work is of the highest priority. For example, this semester my classes are much later than usual. I usually have classes at 8 am but this year most of my days start around noon. Instead, of laying around in the morning and sleeping in I wake up at 7 am to start my day. For some people, this is a cardinal sin. I will admit it is hard to wake up at that time when I know I can just go back to sleep but, it is just the getting out of bed that is the hard part. Once you are out it is smooth sailing. When I get up at 7 am it allows me to study for any exams I may have that day or even get a head start on work. Doing this minimized the amount of work at night and thus, maximizing the opportunity of participating in a social event during that day.
The other major thing is to know when to say, “I can’t.” These words are extremely hard for some individuals to say. Saying, I can’t to going out induces the fear of missing out and get cause a real disturbance in studying or doing work. These are very real things and should be acknowledged. During a situation like this, I have one of two options. The first option is to say, “I can’t” and miss out. Usually, if I do this the work I am doing is very important or time-sensitive. I will remind myself of the importance of school and remember that there will be more things to do in the future or even better things later that week. The second option is to go and socialize but, designate a time to make up that work. If you are doing option two and find that you can’t find time to designate your coursework, you most definitely should revert to option one.
The biggest thing to do is to be your own person. Don’t get pressured into missing school work to go watch a football game or place bingo. College is one of the crucial life periods that you grow as a person and this is where you can decide if you want to be someone who works hard and gets s!*% done or being that person that fools around avoiding work to socialize and do trivial activities. One of the phrases some of my friends began to hate was “That’s fine.” I used to say this whenever they told me I was missing out or gave me a reason to feel bad about how much work I was doing. I would respond with a simple sentence because that is how I felt. It was fine that I was doing my work and as long as I knew that, everything was fine.
The last thing I will leave you with is that you should work hard on the weekdays so you can work hard on the weekends. Put in the work now to get the reward later. Trust me it will be worth it, I have been doing it for three years now.